The Balancing Act
Some days I feel like I’m holding it all together with one hand and a bobby pin.🫠
Being a founder is hard.
Being a mom is hard.
Being a partner, a leader, a human with feelings and needs and a million open tabs in her brain…it’s all hard.
It often feels like I’m juggling a million balls at once and none of them can drop. But when one does, no matter how small, it hits like a massive failure. Like I let everyone down. Like I didn’t measure up.
When I started THE PRIVILEGE IS MINE there were no big expectations. It wasn’t supposed to be anything monumental. The growth came organically out of passion and ultimately necessity, and it came one conversation at a time. It wasn’t planned or forced; it just became an idea that people could get down with; community and a space for people who needed it.
But launching ALTARE? That’s a whole other story. (A love story, still…see below in our gorgeous reel by Khaki Bedford!)
But, this isn’t just building a business; it’s building a platform, a team, a vision, and a new way forward for this industry.
Creating ALTARE has been exhilarating but also exhausting and terrifying.
I go from reviewing app timelines and debugging features to answering client emails and calming someone’s mother-in-law, to team meetings to filling out preschool forms and then to remembering we are out of milk. Everything overlaps. Sometimes I feel wildly powerful and sometimes I want to cry during Zoom meetings.
I’ve learned that being a leader doesn’t mean having all the answers.
It means showing up anyway even when I’m tired and unsure and when the to-do list feels like quicksand.
It means listening.
It means being honest with my team when I’m overwhelmed.
It means building a culture where rest and ambition can co-exist.
Because ALTARE wasn’t born out of perfection. It came from a need I saw in the industry to make the wedding industry more accessible. I was inspired to create tools that feel human and helpful to help bring that much needed change.
And honestly? I needed it too. I needed to build something that could live and breathe beyond me. Something that could support people I’ll never meet, but who deserve to feel seen and held in this wild season of life.
But no one tells you how hard it is to build the thing you believe in while still being all the other things you are.
So this is my reminder to myself, but also to anyone else doing too much:
It is okay to be stretched thin. You can still be steady.
You can be both tired and passionate.
You are allowed to be in a season where you are building while still becoming.
Because maybe balance isn’t about doing it all at once. Maybe it’s just about staying in the work, staying honest, and allowing yourself to ask for help.
I am so proud of you